There’s no real “secret” to success… if you’re not getting the results you want, then odds are you’re going to have to make some changes. I’ll be the first to admit that making changes is easier said than done, especially when it comes to breaking old patterns. Here’s what made all the difference in my life…
Video Transcript and Relevant Links
So, how do you change your life?
I mean, almost everyone wants something different in their life. It could be getting in better shape. It could be having a better relationship or a new relationship. It could be having more money. Or it could be having a great business. And of course that's what we mostly talk about in these videos is building a great business and a great life. So how do you create change in your life?
I mean, behavior change is hard. It's one of the hardest things you'll ever do. But the reality is to get something different out of your life, you've got to change some of the behaviors in your life.
And so the things that have made the difference for me, and I've had this remarkable transformation in my life over the last twenty some years… the thing (one thing) that's made the incredible difference for me is who you hang out with. And so I'm not talking about going and getting rid of your friends or replacing your friends. What I'm talking about is consciously and intentionally going and finding the people you need to hang out with to create the business you want.
No one does this alone. The great thing about this business is it can be just you in front of a computer. That's it. You have a business. Boom. You got a computer connection, or a phone-in connection, and you've got a business. That's the greatest thing about this business. The worst thing about this business is it's just you and a computer.
No one does it alone. We all need some help. We all need to surround ourselves with people that are pushing us forward, that are driving us forward. That's why I do the events that I do. That's why I create the masterminds that I create. It’s to surround myself with people that drive me forward.
Because my friends… (I've got lots of friends who don't have businesses that I get out and play with, but they don't have businesses)… they don't have the same drive to create a business that I have. So I go and I find those people. And I intentionally surround myself by those people and stay in contact with those people.
So, there's this term that the rising tide lifts all boats. And that's how it works with people. When you create a network, when you create a mastermind, when you create a group of people that you can hang out with that can pull you higher, it makes everything so much easier. That's one huge thing in behavior change.
Another thing is what you're studying, what you're learning. And a key here is you want to learn from people with experience. There's all kinds of book learning out there. There's all kinds of… (And I love books. I absolutely love, love books. I'm always reading. I'm always learning from books.) But the books that you want to study are the books written by people with experience. And the people that you want to learn from are the people that have learned from experience, that they just didn't go read three or four books and now they're an expert. You want to learn from people with experience.
So who you hang out with, who you learn from, and what you're studying, what you're learning, and the third one is your habits. And the funny thing is, is that we are creatures of habit. And everything we do in our life, 90% of it, we do the same thing over and over and over, day after day. So you want to build habits so those things you're doing day after day after day are building your life, are giving you the life you want, are building your business.
But the funny thing is, when you surround yourself by the right people and do that right learning, it's almost like those things drive your habits, or those things support your habits. Or those things allow you to establish the habits that you need.
So behavior change is really, really hard. But if you focus on the right learning and how you spend your time in that learning and instead of looking at social, instead of watching TV, you spend that time learning from people with experience, learning from books that come from experience and you surround yourself by the right people, those are the things that in the long run are going to make a huge, huge impact.
People often overestimate what they can do in the short run, but they underestimate what they can do in the long run. And I'm a perfect example of that. I've created this incredible life by just taking the next step, step after step, surrounding myself with the right people and studying the right stuff.
That's what I've got for you this week. So scroll down, leave a comment for me, and let's go get ‘em this week.
Amy Buttiglieri
Right on, Jeff! Going through your PLF course right now. The FB group is very supportive. I’m also very involved in my local Project Management Institute (PMI) Chapter exactly for the reasons you talked about: meeting to talk about project management and learn from a different guru each month keeps me at the top of my game, and motivated to do my best.
Erica Glessing
Thank you Jeff! These observations are on point! Choose carefully who you learn from, and build a network of masterminds that uplift, encourage, and inspire!!! I woke up yesterday with a desire to 2X my business results the next 50 days (over the last 45 days) and this blog is perfect timing.
Altaf
Exactly great idea. When you are stuck in life and get frustrated, focus on these 3 things told by Jeff.
Company of people. Books Habits
Shannon Post
Awesome, thanks Jeff!
Shampa Sarkar
Sorry Jeff, now I am just from a motivational meeting, it’s just about how to get success,and it’s about getting changed and transfer to all group people as it is freshly absorbed by you.
We always complain about why not we getting success,but we are responsible for everything,as we are not taking same way to receive you all,
I feel that vibration must be transmitted,sure,which we don’t do generally,sorry,we are responsible,that everything is proper place to take and to transfer,I am responsible that I delayed everything,
Laureen Kelly
Shampka Sarkar: Giiven your prose, it is tough to decipher the point you are wanting to make. “Sorry” is offered twice, perhaps indicating disagreement with the blog. Jeff is by no means suggesting that we are not responsible for ourselves. Quite the contrary!
Roberto
wise words, thank you Jeff
Harriet
I love this. It’s what I needed to hear today as I was asking for the next step to take. Now I know I need to surround myself with people who are experienced and energetic. Thank you.:)
Sharon
Thank you Jeff. Love your down to earth style.
Jerry Chuculate
Jeff, awesome and wonderful truth. I continue to be inspired by you, the PLF Team and your generosity. Enjoying the fresh look of the PLF Training web site. Having some hangtime with those who are successful to listen learn and move forward taking those little actionable steps to create transformational content value in your life and business. Wifey and I are grateful we have you Jeff PLF and Brian SCart to learn from in our small start up business moving forward. Best! Best always Jerry and Janice.
Gabrielle
Thank you Jeff. I’m so happy I found your videos. They are so different from any other motivational, and other stuff. I feel your genuine and I appreciate this. I look at success in the same way. I want my financial freedom and to live my life as I want. I’m 44 years old now. Doy ou think I still have a chance to do this? Thank you.
Christina Robb
Thanks for sharing Jeff. I enjoy you’re insights.
Gloria Hamilten
This message is ALWAYS timely, Jeff. You’ve actually got a Life Long Guru Badge for this video. I’d say, there isn’t a single person on this planet who wouldn’t benefit from a daily spoonful of this wisdom.
Huge hug to you, Jeff, and big thank you to everyone who is part of your/my world who I now surround myself with.
Natalie Biesel
This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks!
Beth
Totally agree! Thanks for that! Really enjoy your videos!
Very inspiring!
Val Frania
Thanks. I’m passing this along to my people.
Virginia Reeves
Jeff – as always you offer practical tips and techniques to implement. It’s good to have a variety of people around you, especially those who challenge your creativity, persistence, and desire to learn.
Thomas
Love your energy and your style, Jeff. You’re so right. Paying attention to our ‘Environment’ is so key. Every little bit makes a difference – so best to take care of as much as one ‘reasonably’ can! Thanks. Feeling Pumped!!
malcolm
Yes, Luck comes by showing up.
Norma Brumbaugh
Another great (helpful, encouraging, motivating) video. The most powerful tools I have in my life are the experiences I use to help others. It’s rather amazing how that works. We have something to give that matters. I so agree.
Naledi
Great teaching , thanks alot
Wayne Joe Evans
Thanks Jeff, as always simple advice which is like gold dust.
Norma Brumbaugh
This was great (interesting, encouraging, helpful, applicable. Thank you.
Kaylee Shadows
Thank you so much for this video
jaye marie
You have just highlighted everything I have been trying to do, to become a better and more successful writer. Progress is slow, so I will try harder!
Noah Digital
I totally agree Jeff!
I think when it comes down to it, connections with others is one of the most important things. That’s why alongside this, donating and giving back is one of the best ways to find happiness.
Thanks for a great post.
Pat Cherubini
Perfect info at a perfect time.
Thanks Jeff!
Yanitsa
I needed to hear these exact words tonight 🙂 Thank you, Jeff!
Judith
Thank you Jeff, I needed to hear this.
I’m not really making progress and, although I knew why, you have shown me in what way I’m not doing what I need to do.
1. Studying and learning the right things from the right, experienced people… I’m doing it, in fact I’m over-doing it, as I like learning (I’m still finishing 2 diplomas at 45 and I read all the time)… The problem is that the more I learn, the more I realise how much I still don’t know, and this can be very overwhelming…
2. Hanging around with successful people from whom I can learn and with whom I can discuss business and related mindset, difficulties, etc. – I’m doing this too but not quite the right way. I am following these people and read what they write and listen to their podcasts and webinars and all, but I don’t actually reach out to them… I am a very introvert person and with all the 15+ year sales & marketing experience, I feel overwhelmed by these successful people, and somehow I cannot find that confident me who I used to be in my day job (selling at a highly technical level, multi-million bespoke equipment for construction of Offshore Wind Farms globally). I quit my job in April and I’ve been learning since then, constantly. There is too much change I’m facing at once, to be able to find and hang out with the righ people at each level (transitioning from a paid job to being an entrepreneur and buildind a multi-stream business, with my brother, across countries and different languages; then also transitioning from the B2B sector to B2C clients and affiliate marketing; also from strictly sales & marketing to copywriting, writing and editing)… I know it’s much but I still have to try to find all the right people who could help me with all this – my biggest challenge of all it is thiugh to be able to reach out to them.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experience on this, and for helping me with this to think these issues through in my life.
Thank you.
Judith Henter
Newcastle upon Tyne, UK
Ingo
Thanks Jeff! You‘re awesome! You‘re my online business hero. I want ro help people leave the hamster wheel and am trying to use your system. Big process..